My 25 male girlfriend 23 female has grown distant after I got beat up defending a group of girls being harassed background.
I have been with my girlfriend Sarah for three years and been living together for one and a half years. She is honestly everything I have ever wanted.
And I'm planning on proposing somewhere next year. So three weeks ago, I was out with Sara at a local bar drinking and having a great time with her as it was just after the quarantine had ended where I live at around 3am we decided to head home as we headed to the parking lot where we had parked we noticed a group of two girls and a guy who was clearly drunk trying to hit on them and get them to go to his house.
The girls were clearly very uncomfortable and trying to find a way out. Sarah told me that we had to do something I told her to go call the cops and get someone as well because the very least I wanted was how to get hurt during this.
So I approached the group and try to pretend I was the boyfriend of one of the two girls and long story short, I got my butt kicked. The guy was at least six feet four inches, whereas I'm five feet 11 inches 167 pounds.
I'm fairly muscular myself, but there was no way I could have taken someone that big.
I knew it from the start, at least from all the noise we had made. A lot of people rushed the scene and the girls got away safe.
I was rushed to the ER because the creek had broken my ribs which had punctured my right lung. Yay. After that incident, Sarah has grown distant from me.
Even though she visited and stayed with me at the hospital. She hasn't been the same since and I thought she just needed time to move past this. However, five days ago, he told me that she is not the same person after what happened and she doesn't know if she feels safe with me after I got beat up like that, honestly hearing that hurt me more than when I got my ribs broke.
She has moved to her parents for the time being and she told me she needs time. Meanwhile, I had no one here to help me. So my brother left his two boys and wife to move in with me. I know I'm just venting at this point, but I don't want this to be over like that. Read it. Is there anything I can do to salvage the situation? update my 25 male girlfriend 25 female has grown distant
after I got beat up defending a group of girls being harassed. 1 Speaker 1 2:35 Until yesterday. It had been 14 days since my last contact with Sarah. My brother had left four days prior because I felt bad keeping him away from his family for so long. Plus, I could take care of myself to some extent. So around 2pm while I was making lunch, I hear the doorbell rang.
I go to open the door and there she is.
Sarah with tears in her eyes. bags, frizzy hair looking like a total mess. During the time we've been together. I've seen her and her ups downs, but I've never seen her in such horrible state before. So I'll let her and she sits on the couch. We haven't still said a word as we were both dumbfounded.
I was so overwhelmed by emotions. I wanted to hug. I wanted to full on blast on her. I didn't even know what I wanted to do. So I did nothing, and waited for her to talk. After five or 10 minutes of silence, she starts sobbing and saying she's sorry, and then full on crying. At this point, I can barely hold myself together.
So I hold her hand and try to calm her down so I can figure out what is going on. After a while she finally somewhat comes down and starts talking. And that's where it got bad. Something that I didn't include in the original post because it wouldn't make sense to anyway is that Sarah's mother has been divorced and remarried once from what Sarah has told him. her biological father cheated on her mother while she was still a kid, and that's why they broke up. And that's also why she doesn't have any kind of relationship with her father.
It seemed odd when I first learned about it, but I didn't question it. That is not the whole story though. Sarah's biological father didn't only cheat on her mother. He was a drug addict piece of crap that also used to beat her up frequently, without getting into a lot of graphic detail. In one instance, when Sarah's brother tried to intervene and protect her mother he ended up getting beat up to so when she saw me intervening, and getting my butt kicked in the bar incident had triggered some kind of PTSD in her head that she could not control. That's why she had grown distant and eventually left. It all spiralled out of control, and she could not handle it. In those two weeks we'd been apart. She barely ate, or slept and even made some dark thoughts which I'd rather not go into. She told me she is a horrible girlfriend for leaving me alone and Mike and And that she doesn't expect us to be together again after that, which I told her isn't the case. So we have a very long road ahead of us. My number one priority right is getting her to see a therapist, which I suggested we can do together if she's scared to do alone. So yeah, that's where we are at. Some of you were right, that there was some deeper issue behind what happened that I could not have possibly known. I also wanted to take this opportunity to say something that I got messaged about a lot. I got a lot of comments and messages saying that I was a moron for what I did at that parking lot, and that I should mind my own business next time
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